Getting ready for a first date can be very stressful,
whether you’re the man or the woman. Women often think of men as confident and always
sure of what they’re doing. In reality, most men will claim they’re every bit
as nervous before a first date as women. If you’re a man getting ready for your
first date, here are some tips to ease your anxiety and put the fun back into
Provide her with a traditional date
In spite of how modern and independent women may think they
are, when it comes to dating, at least the first date, they’re traditional. In
most women’s minds, a traditional date involves the man making the reservations
to wherever they’re going, picking the woman up and paying the bill. Do not
expect her to meet you on the first date or to help pay for the meal. Doing the
first date properly will get things off on the right foot.
Timing is everything
Don’t expect her to accept a date for today or tomorrow.
Allow enough time to make plans and reservations. By asking her for a date in
the future, you’re letting her know that you believe she leads an active life
and doesn’t spend her time sitting at home waiting for you to call. Show her
that you cared enough about this first date to have, it all planned. Do not
show up at her door with no idea of what you’re going to do. Don’t forget that
anticipation tends to make things better!
Don’t cheap out
Don’t be cheap on your first date.
You don’t have to take her to the most expensive restaurant in town, but be
selective with where you choose to take her. Show her that you’ve taken time to
consider the best ways to show her how special she is to you. Even if you’re on
a budget, there are many ways to delight her on the first date. Learn what she
likes and do everything to accommodate her. Don’t be afraid to call her ahead
of time to confirm your plans. She’ll take this as a sign that you are
anticipating the first date as much as she is.
Not too early but never late
Be on time for your date. This is
good etiquette for all dates but particularly so with the first date. Try not
to be too early either as this may just stress her out if she happens to be
running late. If for some unavoidable reason you find you will be late, call
her and give her an update on when she can expect you to arrive.
By the end of the date
We all love to have someone show us and let us know we’re appreciated and desirable. If she looks great, don’t hesitate to let her know. At the end of the date, if you feel things did not work out and have no change, do not string her along with a promise to call her. Tell her you had a great time and thank her with a kiss on the cheek. If, on the other hand, you both had a great time, let her know and ask her out again!